We know you love your
children -- that's why you want the best for them.
Sometimes, however, it seems
no matter what you do, it doesn't change the following:
Decline in grades
Disruptive behaviors at
school & home
Lack of respect for
authority
Isolating themselves
Feelings of despair &
hopelessness
Anger / Hitting /
Fighting
Change in eating or
sleeping habits
Nightmares
Anxiousness & worry
Article: Do My Children Really Need Counseling? by Verna Dority,
MSW, LCSW
Many years ago, counseling was perceived by many as something bad. If
you had to go to counseling that meant that maybe you were weak, or
“crazy”, or couldn’t take care of your own problems, etc.
Now counseling is perceived as a good thing … especially by those who
have used it to help themselves and family members.
There are times when we all get overwhelmed. Sometimes talking to
family members and friends helps. Sometimes they are unable to assist
or maybe they are too biased to give us the guidance/assistance we
need. It is comforting to know that one can reach out to unbiased
professionals to help alleviate the stress, frustration, worry or anger
that may be keeping us from living our lives to the fullest.
That goes for our children as well. Often it is difficult for a parent
to stand back and see the bigger picture of why their child behaves the
way they do. Some children are very angry, some are extremely worried.
Some children have physical, mental, or other emotional issues that keep
them from functioning at school and at home.
Parents often believe they aren’t good parents if they are unable to
help their children with all of their problems. This is not the case.
We all have our gifts and talents and we use them to the best of our
ability with our children. As humans, we are limited however. One
cannot do it all. We call the plumber when certain things need fixed in
the house, we take our car to the mechanic when it stops working right,
and we take our kids to the doctor when they are sick.
If our child needs help and we don’t know what to do, the next stop is
counseling. Let a professional look at the whole situation and plan
with you a course of action. You don’t have to figure it all out
yourself. Remember, counseling is a good thing…
Verna
Dority, MSW, LCSW, a veteran, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and owner
of Carolina Counseling Services in Fayetteville, NC.
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